Over the weekend, I had the pleasure of reuniting with 2 close friends from college and an amazing professor who forever changed our lives. It was simply amazing because everyone attending this lunch came with a positive, open mind and spirit. I wasn’t aware of how much I needed to see these ladies. It was like a breath of fresh air.
Our conversation covered many topics but the one that resonated the most to me was children. The 3 of us are the same age yet each one of our lives have taken a different course. Nonetheless, we are all still subject to the age old question women are asked in their 20’s, “When are you going to have children?” Ironically one of us knows for sure that she wants children, and the other 2 of us feel like there has to be a major breakthrough to change our minds to want children anytime in the near future. We seriously should be the protagonist in the video below.
Our professor, now dear friend, shared a touching story about a young woman who was once our age. She wanted children so bad, and had planned out her life, like many young women. She wanted to get married, have a beautiful wedding, and most importantly have children. However, she encountered some complications. She found out that she would need to have fertility treatments. She was very aggressive about her decision and exhausted all options. Unfortunately, due to complication of the fertility treatments, she died. The professor went on to explain to us, that you have to let life happen at its own course. Albeit cliché, it’s apropos for this particular situation; Things happen for a reason, and in due season. She strongly encouraged us to pursue our ambitions but to enjoy life and live in the moment. If things don’t happen as you wish, just accept the situation for what it is and move on.
This advice moved me greatly. I realized that this is what I need to apply to my perspective on my medical situation. Just because whatever is going on with me doesn’t match the textbook description of the progression of an autoimmune disorder, doesn’t mean that I will be searching forever. It also doesn’t mean that I need to lose hope or faith in my journey. I’m in this journey for a reason. It may not be revealed to me now, but one day it will all be crystal clear to me.
This advice moved me greatly. I realized that this is what I need to apply to my perspective on my medical situation. Just because whatever is going on with me doesn’t match the textbook description of the progression of an autoimmune disorder, doesn’t mean that I will be searching forever. It also doesn’t mean that I need to lose hope or faith in my journey. I’m in this journey for a reason. It may not be revealed to me now, but one day it will all be crystal clear to me.